It is a common mistake to try to comprehend the querent´s situation as if we were part of it, but the truth is that we are not. As Tarot readers, our job is to give clarity, to answer the querents question as objectively as possible without getting involved or letting our feelings get in the way. Since the moment we are born, we are constantly interpreting our environment. As we get older, our interpretations will change according to our own life experiences, beliefs, states of mind, and maybe the planets around us. Everything we interpret with Tarot comes from our life experiences, therefore, the querent will connect through his own comprehension of his life situation. Two people living the same situation will most likely interpret it in different manners, so do not expect as a Tarot reader to understand the situation as the querent will.